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Sep 22Liked by Haley Nahman

I come back and listen to this episode every 9-12 months. Something just really resonates with me about how it addresses the complicated feelings of existence, and I always feel a bit more optimistic about that existence and connecting with other people afterwards ❤️

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Omg, so touched to hear this!!

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T Wise is very wise

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Aptly named

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T Wise is a deep dude. I really enjoyed this episodes and his musings were so thought provoking. What a bunch of lucky Jewish adolescents hanging out with him.

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Hi Haley, I was also thinking about death recently (this year more than usual). The reason — I was working in an ad agency and we were making a social media report for one of our clients. One of the metrics we were discussing was the amount of lost followers on Facebook. Among other things this metric calculates the profiles which were deleted because they were either inactive, fake or the person has died.

I started thinking about the ownership of our profiles when/if we pass away. It's like treasure chest with all of our intimate and private conversations, truth and thoughts about parents, friends, partners. Infinite parallel stories. Facebook has this option — legacy contact: https://www.facebook.com/help/1568013990080948 — I already chose my legacy contact and it is my best friend. Not my partner. Not my sister.

So, my question to you is who would be your legacy contact and what are your thoughts on the amount of private information our personal chats hold.

Sorry for this morbid questions,

M.

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Omg I think about this all the time (not with profiles, but with files on my computer! all the notes and half-baked thoughts!). This is a great question, thank you! Adding to my Dear Baby question list.

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Hi Haley! This was an amazing episode with so many good conversation point. I have always had that disposition to be existentially despondent, so I felt like this conversation soothed my soul 🙂. It was nice to hear a conversation that really dove in to so many tangents about these thoughts of loneliness, lack of fitting into groups, etc.

I had a lot of thoughts, so I'm trying to figure out what to type out in this comment:

1) Firstly, thanks for your writing and your thoughts and your conversations. I'm so grateful for finding your work (years ago now!) and being able to follow along (and pretend we're friends 😅 in my mind)

2) About this episode: I'm Catholic and my faith is a central pillar of my life. However, I am a socially liberal Catholic (and most of my friends aren't religious), and I have so many times found myself feeling 'trapped' in the middle of different groups' thinking. The weird thing is I feel that I'm able to deeply understand both religious and secular people's points and motivations pretty deeply. And I see how groups can be at odds, but I also see the goodness in both (well, talking about people I know and have encountered personally lol). Anywaaay, sometimes I feel overwhelmed by loneliness, since I am unable to squarely fit in any group. Though I know that I wouldn't want to lose the nuance of understanding both. I think I've lately been feeling more positive, since realizing that anyone ever 'truly' 'completely' fitting into any group is basically impossible. So I am feeling a bit better about embracing what sometimes feels like limbo/sadness.

I think the episode with Amalie and this episode have added to that conversation in my mind. So, thank you for that!

3) On a different note, I LOVED hearing T's perspectives that are so educated by Judaism. I particularly loved the 'wrestling' with beliefs/God idea (I forget the exact wording). I feel strongly that faith/ tradition should be questioned, and that questioning can be uncomfortable, but that's how we get to more deeply understand and live by the principles we believe in. Aaah I could go on and on with this thought...

I'll leave it at that, but again thanks for your writing!!

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Hi Haley, thanks for your work. Even though I only subscribed a few weeks ago, the newsletter & podcast have already firmly established themselves as highlights of my routine. I was wondering about the writing seminar you mentioned this week. I'm interested in taking a personal essay / general non-fiction workshop or class and was wondering if you have any recommendations. Cheers, Lily

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Thank you so much Lily! The seminar I mentioned was a two-part workshop with Alexander Chee on "how to write an essay collection." I probably wouldn't recommend that for what it sounds like you're looking for, but I wonder if you might find something interesting on Masterclass? I see ads for online writing workshops there with renowned writers and have always wondered if they're good.

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